ALSO: Remember to find fitness motivation that suits your body type. We all have people in mind to inspire our ideal fitness goal, but what we forget is that we have different body types from different nationalities; therefore, our fitness goals look different in the end. If you’re going to make a Pinterest board for motivation, be sure to make it with people who share your body type.
Friday, 5:52 pm: I was just in Penn Station (NYC) waiting in line to buy a ticket for NJ Transit at a ticket machine. While in line, a man came up behind me with a friend and he started (pretty loudly) telling his friend how much he hates lines because of how stupid people are. “So now we have to wait while they try to figure out how to use their credit cards, stick them in the slot, oh it doesn’t work this way, let’s try another way,” and on and on. Fine. I hate lines as much as the next person. I’ve spent my fair share of time when I was younger waiting in lines to buy a train ticket with a similar inner monologue thinking, “seriously, if I don’t catch this train because this person can’t figure out how to use the machine!”
So I get it, no one likes waiting. But the lady in front of me got up to the machine and it had to clear from the previous person’s transaction so she kept touching the screen waiting for it to start. Cue the guy behind me telling his friend, “See, she can’t even figure out how to touch it to make it start. C’mon,” then started making some sort of mocking handicapped noises to make fun of her. This is a grown man I’m talking about here, talking to another grown man. At least 45-years old. Now it takes a lot to get me actually mad, and I mean a lot. But for some reason this made me upset enough to turn around and tell him to try to be a little nicer and that he didn’t have to be so rude. In reality it wasn’t even the lady’s fault, it was the machine itself that was slow, he had just assumed she was incompetent because… I don’t know, she wasn’t him?
He could’ve responded to me turning around with, “I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to offend anyone, I was just making a joke.” No, instead his response was, “I am never nice.” At that point his friend looked mortified… >>READ MORE
I used to structure my life in a way that helped me to avoid pain. This meant that I protected myself from a lot of potential pain, but it also meant that I wasn’t living fully. Thinking I was prophetic, I’d try to predict the future and if I thought there was a chance I’d get hurt, I’d find a way around that, never letting a vulnerability slip through. It wasn’t until my mid-20s that I learned to truly open up, but even still, it’s something I work on: to allow life to unfold even when I don’t know if pain is part of the picture.
1. Out of pain, genius is born.
Your creative genius is on the other side of your vulnerability. Whether you want to write, act, sing, paint, whatever is your creative poison of choice, some of your best work will be the work in which you express your pain. It’s the light that comes through the darkness that moves people and that is what you can put into your art, that is what will make the people who interact with your art feel the most. You may even find that there are creative expressions you never knew existed when you’re deep in the throes of your own pain.
2. We connect to each other through our pain.
When we truly connect with others, it’s when we can share in our pain together. Our surface-level relationships never get to that place (and that’s fine), but we dive deeper into our relationships when we can find a commonality amongst our battle wounds. That’s when our relationships are taken to a new level, when we get to the core of who we are, and at that core, is our resilience. This is how we connect: how we overcame pain, how we’re currently within the pain, and how we can feel less alone together in whatever future pain awaits us.
3. Without pain, we wouldn’t know appreciation.
This is not a novel concept, but it bears repeating. Have you ever come out of a terrible flu and suddenly felt a renewed appreciation for the small things in your life like your sense of smell and your ability to stay awake for longer than thirty minutes? This is how it is with our pain. We have a sense of appreciation for our lives and we expect less, feel happiness and joy more, once we have overcome a situation in our lives that had caused a good deal of pain to us. We appreciate far more than we did before that pain had entered our lives and that means, joy and love become simpler and more attainable on a daily basis, because we see it everywhere we hadn’t seen it before.
4. Pain etches a unique story into us.
The most interesting part of you is the pain you’ve overcome. … >>READ MORE
When you go for a run, give this a listen. It’s a game changer.