I used to structure my life in a way that helped me to avoid pain. This meant that I protected myself from a lot of potential pain, but it also meant that I wasn’t living fully. Thinking I was prophetic, I’d try to predict the future and if I thought there was a chance I’d get hurt, I’d find a way around that, never letting a vulnerability slip through. It wasn’t until my mid-20s that I learned to truly open up, but even still, it’s something I work on: to allow life to unfold even when I don’t know if pain is part of the picture.
1. Out of pain, genius is born.
Your creative genius is on the other side of your vulnerability. Whether you want to write, act, sing, paint, whatever is your creative poison of choice, some of your best work will be the work in which you express your pain. It’s the light that comes through the darkness that moves people and that is what you can put into your art, that is what will make the people who interact with your art feel the most. You may even find that there are creative expressions you never knew existed when you’re deep in the throes of your own pain.
2. We connect to each other through our pain.
When we truly connect with others, it’s when we can share in our pain together. Our surface-level relationships never get to that place (and that’s fine), but we dive deeper into our relationships when we can find a commonality amongst our battle wounds. That’s when our relationships are taken to a new level, when we get to the core of who we are, and at that core, is our resilience. This is how we connect: how we overcame pain, how we’re currently within the pain, and how we can feel less alone together in whatever future pain awaits us.
3. Without pain, we wouldn’t know appreciation.
This is not a novel concept, but it bears repeating. Have you ever come out of a terrible flu and suddenly felt a renewed appreciation for the small things in your life like your sense of smell and your ability to stay awake for longer than thirty minutes? This is how it is with our pain. We have a sense of appreciation for our lives and we expect less, feel happiness and joy more, once we have overcome a situation in our lives that had caused a good deal of pain to us. We appreciate far more than we did before that pain had entered our lives and that means, joy and love become simpler and more attainable on a daily basis, because we see it everywhere we hadn’t seen it before.
4. Pain etches a unique story into us.
The most interesting part of you is the pain you’ve overcome. … >>READ MORE